No matter how much you love your spouse, if you are one who
is temperamental, the threat of divorce/separation would always come from you.
Why it is wrong to threaten your spouse with divorce over
little issue both of you can always settle, it is necessary and expected of you
especially the man, to always control your temper.
Two angry people can never listen to themselves. While one
person speaks, it is expected that the other party remain silent till the
atmosphere is right to speak. If you speak back during an
argument/misunderstanding, it may result to a very big tragedy.
During
an argument, each person wants to make his/her point clear. For some, that is
the time to speak their mind over issues they have always held for long inside.
Words said when angry is always dangerous and risky for both couple as most
people hardly forget words especially if it really hurt them. So when next you
become angry with your spouse, relax and talk to them without trying to engage
in a fight or insult.
Anyone can be married, anyone can pay bride price, at the
same time; anyone can divorce.
It takes two to build a relationship, it takes one to
destroy it.
Most people who divorce never thought they would make such decision.
They were one time best of friends with their spouse and enjoyed the
relationship until Hatred, Ego, Selfishness, and disrespect came into the
picture. when divorce take place, it also affect the kids; ranging from change of school, location,friends and psychologically.
People in relationship must learn to tolerate each other. If
you desire a sweet union, then you must build it. No one will help you do it.
God’s word on divorce is so clear. When you study the
scriptures, a lot is said on divorce.
In Luke 16:18, It was clearly written; ‘’Anyone who divorces
his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a
divorced woman commits adultery’’
The word of God cannot be twisted. It is God’s word for His
people; it is the mind of God.
God wants you to enjoy your marriage; so everyday as you
continue the union of marriage, try to build and not destroy.
The first ever miracle Jesus performed was a Marriage feast
at Cana in Galilee, where He turned water into wine. To my understanding and
daily study of the word of God, if Jesus could perform His first ever miracle
at that wedding, it means Jesus is interested in marriage. People who hardly
attend events cannot be seen everywhere; but if Jesus who is the king of kings
could attend a marriage feast and even provide wine for the couple, it means
marriage is God’s idea and God is interested in your marriage. If the Governor
of your region or President/ Prime minister of your country attend your
wedding, I am so sure you won’t forget that visit. That is how Jesus attends
your wedding and provides for you even when you don’t know how.
So instead of break, destroy, hit your spouse or use fowl
languages, take it up to God for solution. God heals marriages just like He
heals the human body…
In 1st Corinthians 7:10-11, it was also written
and spelt out clearly ‘’To the married I give this command (not I, but the
Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband, But if she does, she must
remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
Beloved, on no account should you be the one to initiate
divorce. Don’t even think it.
People who divorce are human just like you and me, but you
should never allow the flesh control you to think divorcing your spouse is the
best deal.
Divorce brings Hatred like I earlier stated, it also leads
to death. Because most people are temperamental in handling or settling
emotional conflicts, they take away the life of their spouse. If you watch over
the news or dailies, several cases always appear monthly, weekly and even
daily.
If you are facing challenges in your marriage, ask God for
help and be assured that He will help you out. If you need to discuss with
someone, discuss with people who have the fear and respect for God and not
people who would advice you send your wife packing.
Little things can cause divorce in a home ranging from inability
to conceive a child which is as a result of inpatients from both spouse and
misunderstanding from the same people.
Two couple got married in 2009, two weeks after the
marriage, the wife was already considering to file for divorce. When asked why
she wanted a divorce, she said the marriage was based on lies and that the
husband before they married told her he was a graduate but after the marriage,
she found out he never graduated but dropped out of the university.
Although that is not a good reason to divorce, the man shouldn’t
have lied. I guess he was scared of losing his sweet heart. On the part of the
woman, divorcing your husband because you found out he never had a university
degree shows you only married him because he told you he had a degree.
Married should be based on true love for each other and also
dedication to the relationship. Marriages full of lies and deceit is never a
good one. So if you must tell yourself the truth and be sincere, tell your
spouse what they really need to know. If they decide to marry you, good; but if
they refuse, don’t force them into marriage. Marriage is a union of two (A MAN
AND A WOMAN) who have chosen to come together as one. Let nothing come between
you.
It is my prayer that divorce shall never be our portion. What
God has joined together, let no boy, girl, third party man or woman put asunder!
So when faced with a likely case such as divorce, go to God and seek counsel. I
wish you a blissful marriage and everlasting union.
You will Prosper!
You will Succeed!
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