TURNING A NO TO A YES....

The fear of failure is the beginning of failure itself.
Once you allow fear control you, it will cheat you of so many things.
It will make you feel you don’t deserve anything good and when you begin to think in that line, you’ve missed it all.
Most men who are set to marry, miss their God given wife because of fear. They are afraid of speaking out or afraid of rejection.
Their mentality tells them that beautiful ladies, are meant only for a group of people and not their type.
They see themselves as incapable of having such beautiful lady as a wife. To that effect, any gorgeously dressed lady with expensive cloth and high heel is a flirt or a RUNS girl like they usually call them.
Most men find it hard to boldly approach whoever God has shown them because they are scared she may reject them or turn them down; they forget so soon that the woman is also God’s creature like them.
Just like the wedding ceremony I attended over the weekend and the Pastor told us a story of two friends (male and female) who always spent most of their time together just playing the Ludo game.
The man had intention and feelings for the young lady and wished she would marry him, but he was too shy and timid to speak out. He never talked about marriage, and never talked about the future until another ‘sharp’ man found the lady and became interested in her. He didn’t waste much time until he asked the lady to marry him and she agreed. When the other man found out she was engaged, he became angry and asked ‘’but I wanted to ask for your hand in marriage’’ and she replied ‘’BUT YOU NEVER DID’’(you never asked) and that was how he missed it….
Most men prefer to talk over the internet and social network, but when you see them face to face, ask them to repeat what they said you won’t hear a word from them again. Most of them look to the floor while speaking to a girl and that really is a turn-off to every lady.
A lady wants a bold man. A man who can speak up and act. A man who is gentle but active.
Often times I hear most men say  Ah… I can’t marry this girl ‘’she go kill me’’ That is not to say she is arrogant or rude but because she looks to expensive and so the man feels he is not capable of handling such a lady…
The fear of a thing is the beginning of failure itself.
I have seen same girls they ‘’TERM’’ too expensive marry people in same category with these same men who call them expensive. Would you prefer her look dirty and ugly before you become bold?
When God has revealed a lady to you, don’t fail to speak out. Never stay afar to judge anybody.
If a beautify lady was not meant for you, why always say you want to marry a beautiful girl? Then when you find one, you give excuses such as ‘’SHE IS OVER BEAUTIFUL’’
People stay afar and you hear them say ‘’This person is too proud, Too rude, A womanizer etc…
Never assume a thing about a person when you have no fact or evidence to prove.
When God has said a thing, work towards it. Walk up to that lady and ask for a hand of friendship. The least she can do is snob you(which is normal) tell you she’s not interested or ask you to stay off.
If really God spoke to you, he will make a way to bring you both together; but you need to take a STEP.
Also you must avoid becoming a pest so you don’t give a wrong impression about yourself.
When you send a message especially on facebook and the person is not replying, give them a break. When you keep sending a Hi Hi message for two months without getting a reply and you keep on sending same Hi Hi, it becomes a joke and you are not taken too serious…
As a young man, I find it hard to reply people who send too many messages without waiting for me to even reply their first greeting, talk more a lady(not all really) who first checks your profile to see how real and serious you look before they reply you…
Take your time. Give them space and always pray.
You don’t only pray for wealth, job, good health and long life but also pray for the best relationship and God’s direction…