Remember I told you that before you finally marry your sweetheart, both of you should spend more time communicating. I also remember telling you that without communication in your relationship, your relationship may go soar. If you are yet to read that write-up, please go back and locate ''BEFORE SAYING I DO (PT 1). Reading part 1 gives you full understanding while you read part 2.
Just like we discussed about both intending couple attending same Church, We would talk on something important.
STAY AWAY FROM LIES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP:
We won't spend much time treating this topic because by now you should know that a relationship built on the foundation of lies can never stand or last.
People who are not truthful in their relationship destroy that relationship with a percentage of 67.
If you must lie to pass an information to your spouse, you are doing that relationship more harm than good.
People often classify lie into small lie and big lie; but in my definition of a lie, a lie is a lie and every lie is equal to same amount( if there is anything like that).
During courtship, most intending couple lie just to be accepted by their spouse to be. Some of them say things they know within themselves is never true.
Not too long, a friend shared a story with me of a man who had a child outside their home but never told the wife. The wife was unable to give him a male child after their 3 girls which resulted to going outside their matrimonial home to have a child without the knowledge of the wife. When the wife found out, she was mad and angry with the husband. They fought each day and she wept bitterly every night. Because of her inability to bear it, she left the house and that was the end of the relationship. Before you conclude to call all men dogs because of the story above, you should also understand that every individual is different. What a man can take, another man may not. That is not in anyway saying the man was right in going outside his home to have another child. Whether male or female, the child God has given you is the best and every relationship outside your marriage is wrong and should be avoided. That is why intending couple should look before they leap. Don't allow desperation and competition force you into a relationship or marriage you would regret 5 years after the wedding. Always say the truth and if they refuse to accept you for saying the truth and clearing you conscience, that shouldn't make you lose sleep.
When people refuse to accept you based on what you told them, then you should understand that they were never meant for you. God's best for you is to be enjoyed not endured. For intending couple, if your partner keeps reminding you of your past deed and always blaming you, that is not the time to marry him/her. Purse the marriage plans until both of you develop trust for each other. If they continue to blame you, insult you and abuse you for telling them about your past life, the possibility of them doing that when you finally marry is 80%.
Lie ruins relationship. A single lie told can ruin the relationship you have built for many years. If you cannot stay a day without telling a lie, then you need to refrain from such so you can enjoy your relationship and live a happy life. I really want the best for you in your relationship.
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